We are ALL Bad Moms
Big Boy is going to be 3 next month and the attitude is mounting quite beautifully. In response... or reaction.. I find my self getting short with him. No, not short.. that is not the right thing to say but I DOOoooo find myself saying the following types of things:
* NOW means now.... not later.. c'mon c'mon little guy!
* Are you listening to me? shake your head if you are!
* we do NOT do that here!
* Ok... I need you here by the count of three or we have to leave!
* what did you DO?!?!?
oh yes..... I sound like a Bill Cosby recording.... "C'mere! COMMMME here!... here! here! cooommmmmmmeee heeeerrreee!"
then there's :
*Remember this... that when you do *blank*, *blank* happens and you don't LIKE *blank*!!
* That was NOT a good choice (oof I hate it when that flies out)
* absolute quiet as I count to ten in my head and breathe deeply.... oddly enough.. THIS gets the biggest response.
* Look at me... LOOK AT ME!
* I don't think so, kiddo... now get back here!
I talk to friends about feeling like a crappy mom when I get impatient or when this stuff flies out and wonder if they ever feel bad. You know what the response has been so far?
"EVERY DAY!!"
One says she beats herself over not being emotionally available to her kid when she gives up and says "ok... if you need to go on like that, do it in your room."
Another says "everyday" then puts our phone chat on hold as she hollers "I'll believe it when I see it! Now go Pee!!" ha ha ha
We are not bad, we are not nasty moms, uneducated moms, abusive moms.... we are simply moms trying to make it. We need to not beat ourselves up for it! Heck, who else will do our job? Who else could love it more than we do, even on a really bad day? witness my last entry.
Girlfriends with kids help keep my world spinning with laughter at our own evolution as mothers, that is for sure!
What Mommy things do you say?