hmmmm....
I'm not social like most folks, I don't think.
Seems folks call each other on the phone a lot and chat. I don't do that. Too often anymore. I think I wore out the phone thing after 24. That and I don't like being on the phone with my kids around.. both because they are noisy and I'm not that mom who has a phone to her ear while mothering. Not to judge, but i jsut can't concentrate on anything when I'm on the phone but the phone. When I talk to someone, I like a conversation...or quick relay of information. Chatting? I find it hard to do in my day to day life. I go through phases, but for the most part? It ain't happenin.
I try.
It feels like working out. Once I do it, it feels great. But when I don't do it. I gotta be honest... I feel fine too.
When does it get to be a problem?
Much like some folks wake up feeling like they have a flabby ass...and try to get to the gym. I wake up feeling like a social loser with no friends and that I should pick up the phone and call some. tend that friendship garden as it were.
When do I feel like a loser? at gatherings when it seems like everyone knows everything about everyone else and I know NOTHING. Or when high school friends get together or when college friends get together.... what??? is it usual to just call up old friends all the time and talk? Honestly friends I hold dearest to my heart I may not speak to more than twice a year.
As I was driving away from Squaw Valley, I called to tell a friend we were leaving. We were begged to stay. We had to go. I hung up, sighed, feeling a tad bit guilty until I realized none of them has ever picked up the phone to call me ever.
I read somewhere to make "phone dates" I tried that. Didn't work....for Baby Girl reasons.
I'd write more on this, but I'm tired. Yup. Maybe even too freaking tired to send the e-mails I need to send.
Oh, we are born a lone and we die alone.. maybe this is one topic I can leave alone! ha! But to those of you out there who KNOW about this blog, who I speak to about twice a year.. please know I care about you very much....I'm simply a social loser!
Hmmm, I guess I've been a phone phobic so long I hardly (well sometimes, well, maybe more than sometimes) think about it. You're anything but a loser in any category, and just think, millions of people had dearly loved friends before the phone existed. I have a cell phone but use it 95% for required business. I have a home phone but have used phones so much in business life that I kind of love not talking when I have a little free time. I enjoy a good conversation once I get on the phone, but its hard to pick it up. You don't even have a little free time so what the heck, you're doing the best you can.
Posted by Mom2 — 18 Aug 2005, 17:49
I'm right there with you. I just have never been much of a phone person. Now, especially with a very active-- and vocal-- toddler, there is just no way to focus entirely on a phone conversation. Phone calls for me are usually factual and brief... by necessity and by choice. Ah well, at least we have other ways to keep in touch! ;)
Posted by Tonya — 19 Aug 2005, 19:03