disappointment
Last week I called my dad to tell him the latest hilarious antics of his grandson. He told me at the end of the call "pencil me in for next Tuesday or Wednesday."
I quipped to myself " I will with a big eraser"
Sure enough Tuesday came and went and today I decided to call him JUST IN CASE he was planning on appearing at my doorstep before time to go get my older babe at preschool. I asked him what his plans were. he said, " Well, we didn't make plans so we have no plans." This is not the first time he has been MIA on promises or thoughts of visiting his grandkids. Yeah, I was pissed. I said "ok. Just wanted to be sure. I wouldn't want to go out if you were going to show up here and think ' I told her tues or weds!" He response was a "Well, how about next Tues or Weds." "yeah, sure. ok. bye bye" was my response. I hung up and was very very relieved that I didn't tell my son that Poppa would be with me when I picked him up today. He LOVES his time with Poppa. But now the attachment is getting a little strained as Poppa seems to arrive when mommy is sick. They were thick as thieves form the minute that little guy popped out of me and it saddens me to see that go through this rougher patch.
What is the deal?!?! I would be more than understanding if I have any clue at all as to what is going on up there at the condo in Greenbrae. Beyond the remodel. Beyond the bus driving. Beyond my step-mom's real estate business. It has now been about a year since my father made a point of wanting to spend time with my kids (and following through with it) and it's upsetting to me. When we visit his place he spends his time cooking or keeping busy about the house. Hubby and I try to keep the kids form destroying the place. He has said numerous times now that next month he should be more available to come down every week or so. the months keep passing .
Now to give him his due. He DID come down when I was fresh out of the hospital ( or two days later) after a trip to the ER. He was a great help. I just don't want him to appear only when the shit hits the proverbial fan. I don't expect him to come down every week either. I just want him to mean what he says about visiting and do it. It woudl be a bummer to only see him holidays, but that would feel better than "pencil me in" by a mile or so.